Implementing Behavior Changes

Thursday, August 5, 2010
with Kathy Salazar

Are you tired of listening to whining, arguing, crying, put-downs, back-talk, interrupting, teasing, or other unproductive behaviors your children engage in? Have you ‘had it’ with watching them talk with their mouths full; use their hands instead of their silverware to eat; hit or kick siblings; waste materials; or leave their belongings scattered around the house?

If so, this week’s forum is for you! Come and learn an extremely effective and respectful verbal strategy that is designed to modify and eliminate negative and undesirable behaviors. Parents will leave feeling empowered and confident in addressing behaviors you have tried for years to correct.


  1. Was there less whining, grabbing, hitting, interrupting, teasing, and poking at your house today? If so, please tell us about it!

  2. How to teach your child Manners:

    1. Set a good example. It's unfair to expect politeness of a child if his parents are not
    polite themselves.
    2. Start using words and phrases like 'please,' 'thank you,' 'excuse me,' 'I'm sorry,' and
    'may I?' as early as possible around your child. Encourage your child to do the same.
    Take care what language you use around children; they mimic the way adults speak.

    3. Ask your child to address adults with a certain degree of formality - that is, Ms. Lee,
    Mrs. Doe, Mr. Smith - unless the adult tells them to do otherwise

    4. Avoid ignoring bad behavior or waiting to talk about it. Address a rule as soon as
    your child breaks it.

    5. Bring up the behavior again in private so you can discuss it more thoroughly and
    make sure your child understands how to behave in the future.

    6. Praise your child for good behavior.